Gay Polyamory in a Post-DOMA World

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Though polygamous marriages are not legal, one wouldn’t be able to tell by looking at the self-proclaimed “threeo” – Kevin Coins, 22, Christopher Williams, 43,  and Jacob Bowers, 27. Christopher Williams and Jacob Bowers had been together for about 7 years when they met young, charismatic Kevin Coins.  In a blog on Huffington Post, journalist Victor Lopez talked to the three and examined how a threesome works in a post-DOMA world:

Not everything has been rainbows and butterflies. Chris recalled having a woman send him a message suggesting that by living their lifestyle, the three were “ruining gay marriage for everybody.”

In fact, Christopher says that he does not support gay marriage because the marriage equality movement does not include polygamy, which some experts say is a longer shot than getting gay marriage between two partners approved.

Jacob confided that being in a polygamous relationship came with its own kinds of reservations, and that there was always some human fragility involved, as well as a lot of loving.

“There’s a challenge when you enter someone in the mix,” said Jacob, “especially when there are strong-willed people in the mix. Every day brings its own joys and challenges.” …

Even if it is a long shot, the “threeo” still hold onto the hope that someday America will have a place for them, and that their kind of love will be legal.

For more about life in a gay poly relationship, check out this episode from MTV’s True Life: I’m Polyamorous

Will Polygamy Have Its Day in the Sun?  (HuffPost Gay Voices)

Comments

  1. mick says

    The worst part of the gay marriage movement has been the way it has worked to push other sexual and emotional arrangements in the closet. Gay leaders frequently denounced polyamory, or sought to explain that marriage was an arrangement not of a man and woman, but by TWO PEOPLE. Hate to say it, but there’s much more support in the Bible for polygamy than there is for same sex marriage. I’m not opposed to marriage equality at all, but it’s annoying to have people who should know better throwing you under the bus.

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